My mom is moving into a condo. She has sold the house and is currently going through everything and packing up. She wanted to do the move while she physically and mentally can, she said.

I didn’t grow up in that house. They built that house when I graduated from high school, and I lived in that house for only a few years. For the last twenty-five years, however, I visited my family there. My dad spent his last fifteen years in that house, and my mom has made many friends in the neighborhood.

Mom is moving to a smaller place in another town, so she has to eliminate a lot of things, our things. She apologized for getting rid of things – kimonos that they inherited from my grandparents, books that my dad had collected since he was a student and other memorabilia. I apologized, in return, for not being able to help her move.

Whenever we have to move, we are forced to go through housecleaning of our lives – dusting off our past and unloading stuff.

I am ready for another cleaning. Get rid of stuff and simplify. That’s what I need…





4 thoughts on “catharsis

  1. Ugh. Getting rid of stuff is liberating, but I have never found it to be easy. Especially when the stuff you are releasing is tied strongly to people you have loved and lost. (Sometimes one of these people may even be your old self!) Right now, I’m in the midst of cleaning out the garage, which is a terrible mess after 30 years, plus the deaths of three parents and several friends — agonizing at times and I can really put in only an hour or two a day before I become overwhelmed with despair. Nevertheless, it must be done. (When I was so sick in January, I woke one night in a panic, realizing that if I died before I got the garage cleaned out, my husband would be too mad at me to grieve.) I applaud your mother for dealing with her move while she herself is still up to the task. I applaud you, too, for strengthening your own resolve to simplify. I think of it as the same process a snake goes through when it sheds its skin: beautiful new colors and patterns underneath — a fresh start!

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    1. Yes. When every object you handle represents the lost loved one, how can you discard it casually? I cleaned out my mother’s garage ten years ago, and now I am having to clean out my own garage — same stuff!


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